The Freedom of Solitude, Embrace it.

There is this saying floating around that being alone is a horrible thing and you’re doomed in life if you embrace that lifestyle.

This beautiful Wednesday morning,  I hear the birds chirping…I just finished a warm bowl of oatmeal and now I’m listening to the light clicking of my fingers typing away,  I have something I want to share with  you.

You will find yourself in seasons of solitude. It might be voluntary or involuntary, and I’ve come to tell you that it’s okay. It’s okay, don’t fret, don’t cry. Don’t pace back and forth in your living room. Don’t dive under the blanket and eat a tub of ice cream. Nothing is wrong with you. You are not less of a person because no one is around. Solitude is a great time to re-affirm your beliefs. A great time to slow down and get things done. It’s a great opportunity to have less social commitments and simply go outside and mingle with people for the sake of doing so. Think of it as a new adventure.

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You are about to embark on a journey. You are about to discover a whole new aspect to life, by yourself. You won’t have people nagging you, questioning your decisions, you are free to explore without limitations. If you had a fall out with people in your past, deal with it, bitterness is not cute. It will form clouds on that beautiful, radiant face of yours and we don’t want that.

Have friends that cramp your style and make you question your existence? Maybe it’s time to be like Abraham and let go of Lot. Is it healthy to be in constant turmoil when you can go to the opposite side of town and be in peace?

We live in a world where no one is free to simply be. We are pressured to have forced and labored interactions. Forced to smile when we don’t want to. Forced to be fake and pretend life is something grand when sometimes it’s not. It’s beautiful when you can smile because you know why you’re smiling, even if it’s something small and insignificant. It’s a great feeling to connect with someone honestly, and not just putting on appearances to make it seem as if you’re getting along. Joy cannot be manufactured.

I feel free just sharing this with you. It’s like a heavy burden was lifted off my shoulders the moment I stopped allowing people’s comments to dictate my feelings. I have always embraced my need for solitude and the seasons of solitude in my life, but I’ve also been criticized for it. Now, I’m not saying being alone and moping around is healthy for anyone, but if you are truly embracing the beauty of solitude and being alone , what’s the issue? Can someone tell me? No you can’t, so don’t even bother. Laughs.

You Can’t Force Love

There is nothing you can do to make people love you.

As I was stirring some oats on the stove-top for breakfast this morning, I was thinking about solitude and love.

I will hold off on solitude for another post coming right after this but,  I want to focus on love first.

You see, no matter how good you are, the kind words spoken, words of encouragement and peace; no matter how often you make someone’s favorite meal, walk the neighbors dog, or mow a friend’s lawn, none of these things will make people love you. You can be the best wife, even the best father, you can win the Nobel Peace Prize, be the most virtuous man or woman on this planet and there will always be someone that hates you. There are despicable people out there who commit many crimes, beat their wives, abuse their children and are still loved by many.

So what’s my point? Well, my point is, if you know you are doing the right by God, continue being yourself. People will nit-pick, criticize and demean you, do good anyway. People will shun and reject you, be happy anyway. People will find fault with you but overlook a major character flaw in others, stay true to yourself anyway. Because the moment you succumb to any of their comments and ill manners, you will be reduced as a person. You will never be able to please everyone. Sure, we compromise in relationships but never, ever compromise who you are. The ones that love you will never force you to compromise who you are and the good things you do. They will encourage you and motivate you to be the best version of yourself.

A lot of times, we become sad when people praise bad behavior. The bible calls that flattery. Fools give and receive flattery. Usually, they do this to get something from the person they are lying to.

You must live by your inner conviction. People will choose who they love and you must never do good things to be loved by others. You do good things for yourself and others for the glory of God and because it’s the right thing to do.

Always see people for who they are and what they show you. You cannot force people to change, you can speak the truth, but give them the space and time to make that decision to grow for themselves. Choose the company you keep wisely. Choose people with the same or similar inner convictions: loving God and others not for what they can gain but simply because they love you. Give each other space to be exactly who you are and be honest in everything you say and do.

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers. (Galatians 6:7-10 NIV)

 

 

Honor and Reverence The Holy Spirit

The Holy Spirit is not a force or a feeling. He is God. God is naturally, in essence powerful. This power was given to us. However, a force is not a comforter. Only personalities can bring comfort. Someone that can communicate and connect with another.

 Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, [that] shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. John 16:13

If the Holy Spirit was a force, we would be able to manipulate Him at will. However,  we cannot manipulate God. We must have respect for God and His power: not to be used to wave around like a magic wand; or believing that whatever you pray for, it will always happen as you want it. Remember, God has His perfect will. Sometimes what we want, isn’t what God wants for us or is part of His greater plan.

God doesn’t care about empty sacrifices. Worship should come from a pure heart. Not because your Pastor says so, but because you have full understanding of who and why you are worshiping.

Honor and reverence God with humility. Do not brag about the authority and power given to you, but like Christ said, rejoice not because you can cast out demons but because your names are written in the book of life.

 When the seventy-two disciples returned, they joyfully reported to him, “Lord, even the demons obey us when we use your name!”“Yes,” he told them, “I saw Satan fall from heaven like lightning!  Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you. But don’t rejoice because evil spirits obey you; rejoice because your names are registered in heaven.” Luke 10: 17-20 NLT

Rest. Be at peace. Jesus promised us the Great Comforter that will be with us forever.

 

 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever; Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. John 14:16-17 

The Holy Spirit is always listening and whatever He hears, He shares with us. Basically, The Holy Spirit is keeping us updated. Time with God is important. Intimacy is a mix of quality time and communication. It is through intimacy or relationship that we grow in Christ and are being led by His Spirit.

 

Thank You Jesus for The Comforter.

Begging Vs Pleading

I woke up this morning and my first thoughts were on begging and pleading. I rolled over in bed asking myself, what in the world does pleading your case mean and why am I thinking about this?

I heard over and over again, in church and in songs, about pleading the blood. However, I never really fully understood the concept, so I looked up the definition. Pleading is a legal term. When someone is pleading in court they come with a statement or list of inquiries and complaints to a judge. The Judge has the power to execute a final judgement based on the evidence and facts presented. After reading that, my next question was ” So how does this apply to prayer?”

I just left that question to simmer while I took care of my morning duties but when I sat down, I started to pray. It was after the prayer ended that God revealed to me what it meant.

I’m quite sure you can do a google search and find many articles on this topic but for me, it’s just this simple: begging, throwing tantrums at God only shows Him that we don’t trust Him and are full of fear and anxiety. However, when someone is pleading their case, they have already identified the problem. They have identified the Judge: they truly believe that this judge has the power to help them with their situation. They believe that the judge is fair aka a fair hearing. They can approach the judge with confidence of being heard and not turned away, no matter how big or small the matter is.

We must believe that God is sovereign: all powerful and all knowing. We must believe He hears us and is fair. We must believe that He is loving and kind. We must believe that He has the power and the grace to take notice of us and our struggles. This way of thinking keeps us level headed and secure. We are not putting trust in ourselves but the Great Judge who has highest wisdom.

 

You Are God’s Treasure

Love produces change. Cruelty to oneself just makes you feel guilty and icky. It is self-sabotage. When you love and embrace your worth, you are able to make better choices. Not out of obligation, guilt or fear but out of deep inner conviction. You stop settling and start wanting the best with humility. You will begin to nurture, love and encourage yourself like a treasured friend. You will enforce healthy boundaries and learn how to say no with strength and confidence.

If you are a temple where God dwells, we all know people take great care of sacred places and items. How much more are we to care for our whole selves: body, mind and spirit. Holiness transforms a person completely and holiness says: “I must not be defiled.” Cruelty will defile you, so love: truly truly love.

 

I AM Truly Happy!

The strangest thing has been happening to me within the last couple of days.

I’ve been feeling happy and joyful. Extremely happy and joyful! The happiest I’ve ever felt in my life. I’ve honestly never been happy before. There were days I’ve felt really really low and my somewhat good days were when I felt numb. I was that girl that got her work done, laughed with friends but deep inside I was sad.

One day recently, I just stopped and noticed that I no longer felt sad, numb or worried. I enjoy living in the moment and any turbulence in my life is met with prayer. I think that was the turning point in my life, when I turned to God in prayer. I prayed for most of my life, but my prayer life has changed drastically when I realized these few things:

  1. God is sovereign: He is in complete control.
  2. God is loving and kind: seriously, He really loves us!
  3. I no longer had to hide away from Him in anyway: intimacy was something I always wanted but then I realized that true intimacy starts with God; baring my whole heart to Him without fear.
  4. I stopped subconsciously trusting people. I was always cynical by nature but even cynical people deep down are afraid of being hurt. While, I am wiser now and enforce proper boundaries with people, I hold everyone and everything loosely.
  5. I enjoy people for who they are, right now. Not who I want them to be or who I think they are and not fearing if they will hurt me in the future. Guess what, they will and might but I’ll be okay.
  6. Take everything to God in prayer: take ALL of your concerns to God. Every single one of them, including the small ones. I tell Him everything and I pray at all times.
  7. I forgive: this is a big one. People have forgiveness all wrong. They think forgiveness means hanging out with said offender. Uhm, no. Some people are just too toxic and dangerous for that. Forgiveness is something God strengths us to do. Just because it’s a command in the Bible, doesn’t mean it’s something we produce in our own strength. Remember, if we abide in Christ, who is the Vine, He will abide in us and we will produce good fruit. When I pray for my enemies, it opens my heart for the power of God to transform it. I have come to the place where I do not want anyone or anything to come between me and my God.
  8. There’s more but I cannot think of them at the moment. (HA HA)

I’ve been feeling so happy lately that it makes no sense. It leaves me feeling very uncomfortable at times. I’ve gotten so use to being sad that now when I’m happy, I have no idea how to behave.

However, I am excited about my future. I try not to look too far ahead but as I am enjoying my life, day to day, I have come to accept that everyday is a step towards a brighter future.

Depression is a real struggle. It’s a battle for your LIFE. Not just your mind or your emotions, not even your body, but your LIFE. Satan wants to snuff you out! It doesn’t matter if you are a Christian or not, Satan’s goal is to destroy as many people as He can before His time is up. Literally, the personification of “misery loves company.”

He will try to mess with your mind: there are many influences out there that are anti-God and anti-Christ that has even seeped into the Church. He will use your childhood experiences, your failures, hurts and pains to make you feel utterly hopeless.

The moment I decided that I hated Satan, God’s enemy, was the day my life changed. What does this mean you ask? Well, I began to see the commands of God differently. I see holiness as security and protection. I saw it as worship to God. I now see holiness as my weapon of mass destruction against Satan’s kingdom. I start seeing obedience as worship to a God that I love. When I focus on God, Satan cannot win. The righteousness of God transforms me and allows me to be an agent of peace wherever I go. Then the love of God will spread to everyone I meet. It will touch someone. I might not know I am touching someone’s life, but God knows.

You see, I am not an active witness and I don’t plan to be unless God says otherwise. And I’ve come to accept that it’s okay to be exactly who I am. I am my best being simply who I am.

I guess I’m done, have a great weekend! ♥

Being Vulnerable Isn’t The Answer.

While I understand the idea of being vulnerable, something about this way of living doesn’t seem right to me. I don’t want to be vulnerable. Let’s look at the definition of vulnerability:

adjective
1. capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, as by a weapon:

a vulnerable part of the body.
2. open to moral attack, criticism, temptation, etc.:

an argument vulnerable to refutation; He is vulnerable to bribery.
3. (of a place) open to assault; difficult to defend:

a vulnerable bridge.
It basically means being open to attack, criticism and emotional wounds. Now excuse me for a moment but what is so noble about that? I had to take a step back and assess a really well meaning statement from someone but it didn’t sit right with me. I do not follow the crowd or go with what everyone wants to preach nowadays. I conducted a google search, to see if I find any sermons on vulnerability. I did, but I also found psychology articles as well.
The heart is a tender organ. It is also a place where we store our feelings. I keep going back to what Proverbs 4:23 (KJV) : Above all else, guard your heart for out of it flow the issues of life. What are we guarding our hearts from?

Let’s go back to the definition :

  • Moral Attack
  • Criticism
  • Temptation to sin
  • Emotional wounds

When we have a wounded heart, we start living out our wounds. The wounds become sores of bitterness that clouds our judgement and makes it easier for us to sin.

This is why the company we keep is so important. This is why we must deal with the wounds of our hearts from early childhood and continuously in our daily lives.

How does one guard their heart? Great question! This is not something we do in our own power. Time does not heal wounds. Time and complete avoidance also doesn’t protect us. Yes, we must wisely shun temptation and bad influences in every form but for events and circumstances outside of our control, we must have a deep and active relationship with God. We must present our cares, concerns, feelings and wounds to Him. We must be open to Him alone! We must not put our trust in other human beings that have limited knowledge and resources but in the Almighty God who is sovereign: all powerful and all knowing. By the power of His Spirit will He enable us to truly forgive and live freely. In Christ, we have the ability to live godly lives with a PURE HEART. A pure heart is not a wounded one. A wounded heart will eventually seek revenge but a pure heart seeks God. A pure heart accepts God for who He is : A strong tower, a place of refuge and safety.

I learned that the best thing to do is to run to God first. In many cases, God was the only one I could run to. No one understood what I was going through, others didn’t care, and honestly, no one can fix me.

No one can fix us. No one can heal us. No one can deliver us. No one can protect us but God alone. Yes, God sends people into our lives to minister to us but we must always put people in their proper place, giving praise to God alone and allowing it to point back to Him. Anyone or anything that tries to override God’s place in your life is a false god.

Guard your heart, be wise and trust God.